being raised christian has its side-effects

Mine included some pretty big issues with

porn,
masturbation,
sex with people,
ejaculation,
and
shame.

So i figured i'd lay them all out there for y'all in case you or someone you know might benefit from not feeling alone.

Like tonight, I pulled up some porn to masturbate to and was kind of thinking, "this is lame."  But why is this such a big deal?? You see, being raised christian you are taught that porn will fuck you up and ruin your relationships and sex lives with women for ever and ever.  Oh and that you are automatically addicted to porn.  Now I know addiction is a whole other can of worms, but i really want to say this.  Porn does not fuck you up, nor your relationships.  
What it will do is momentarily create some awkward conversations and also some short term patterns in your brain.  For example, I was on a sexual drought through the whole month of January and got through it by jerkin it to porn quite often.  Consequence= was not necessarily easy to ejaculate during sex when I began having it again.  Was life ruined?  No.  Did my cock go flaccid during intercourse at one point, yes.  Again, was life ruined?  No.  A beautiful woman sucking my cock did not cause me to ejaculate.  Does that mean she is an inadequate partner?  No!  <Apologies for this bout of redundant sentence structure...
How do I know that this is temporary?  Remember how I was masturbating during January to porn alot?  I was cumming everytime.  To porn.  On my phone.  But tonight, my phone no longer was arousing.  I could feel my body feeling exhausted at the just the thought of concentrating at small figures on my phone to bring myself to climax.  So i put my phone down and finished myself off au natural.  Point=neural pathways of arousal are reversible.
*Takehome tip: Do you not feel that much sensation during sex and you feel like condoms are the issue?  Masturbate with condoms and lube on!  This will make arousal and condoms go hand in hand. Hehehe.

But what about just masturbating in general while in a relationship with a woman?  Doesn't that mean you're not fulfilling her sexual needs?  Nope!  Bull-fucking-shit!  It's probably closer to the opposite.  You pleasuring yourself keeps you more in touch with your sensuality and sexuality so that there isn't this big shifting of gears from non-sexual to sexual.  It's much more smooth of a transition.
And besides, sex is a fun experience to share with another person.  Remaining pleasure focused and not goal oriented will keep work at the office and out of the bedroom.  Obligatory sex is no fun for either person.

Why am I talking about such a taboo subject of religion and sex publicly and in such explicit detail you might ask?  it's because sex and sexuality is a hard and messy subject to talk about, let alone stacked on top of religion.  It's important to be able to talk about this, and i'm willing to go first so that others feel more comfortable about going second.