What I learned from reading the book, "Program or be Programmed"

So there is this book, *I feel like i've already written about this...Hm*.  Anyways, it's by Douglas Rushkoff and it speaks on some pretty interesting shit which i think most of you might find relevant.

The part I want to share with you is about the different biases of technology that we use.

For example when texting, the bias is to assume the worst possible scenario.  She's not texting back? level 1She must be fucking some other dude and laughing at your lame texts with him while he's inside of her.
level 2When facebooking, he obviously liked that girl's photo to make me jealous.
level 3When on the phone and suddenly he has to go, it's because he has intimacy issues.

And I bring all of this up because of the number of women and men that I have completely lost contact with after one text I sent them is way too big.  I am traumatized for sure.  Texting scares the shit out of me.  Plus I have a sordid history of being terrible at written jokes.  Terrible.  My family still makes fun of me for what I would write on birthday cards.

So am I telling you to stop texting and only use the phone to arrange to meet in person.  Pretty much.  But, if this new age requires you to text, or to ackowledge each other on social media, understand that she's probably just with her mom and can't pick up the phone, and that he is probably mid basketball game with his friends and can't wait to see you after he's all hot and sweaty.  And if either of them have to go, it's because they're sneaking away from their cubicle to call you and don't want to get fired from their respective jobs.

Rule to take away: Assume the best of the person, and get clarity on any moments of uncertainty in person.  And if you have some communication needs, make requests, people are typically excited to accommodate because they most likely think you're pretty swell.  Otherwise they wouldn't have given you their number.

PS, pictures messages and video messages are fun and encouraged.

Oh and here's a fantastic Key and Peele skit about texting for your laughs.