BDSM and Dance

I've always been a chameleon.  Growing up I would make myself available for any role in plays, any position in football, basketball, and any event in track.  I would change my style of humor to fit those kids who I thought were popular, so that they might like me and would include me in their activities.
Pondering upon it, it probably comes from a fear of not being included in one group or another.  A fear of abandonment.

Which brings us to current day Kristophor.  I've been inquiring/auditioning for dancing roles here in Seattle, particularly male burlesque.  I've also been attending polyamory meetups in Seattle, seeking out lovers and friends on Okcupid and Tinder, and lastly I signed up for an account with Fetlife which is essentially the facebook for people who have fetishes.
What i've learned through all of my time engaged in these areas is that a shitload of compartmentalization happens.  "I'm into Fetish X, Y, and Z, or I do contemporary or hip hop dancing, or I identify as this particular type of sexuality."  And I think to myself, how do I describe my dancing in front of a closet mirror style, or how do I categorize myself in regards to turn on or sexual preferences?  And why in the hell is everyone else doing this? Why are they placing so much weight upon categorizations?  Why are they making this stuff important?

Don't we all know that how we look on paper can't really even begin to encompass all that we are?  And how will we know whether or not we're into something until we try it?

These are some of the questions i've been asking myself as of late.

Ooh!  And since i'm on the topic of dance, oh my gosh yes amazingness.  I think i found a little bit of my jam when I went this dance event in portland.  Holy crap!  Such co-creation without using words.  Gosh, i can't really begin to capture the happiness of this event.  I showed up and saw that most everyone was partnered up in dance.  And i have historically saw myself as a solo dancer, so i got shy.  And i told my friend about it and she started dancing by herself in front of me.  i felt loved.  i danced back and worked in a little strip tease revealing some leopard print spandex shorts with some silver bootie shorts over those combined with a bright pink tank top.  There, now you get to see me in all of my brightness and glory!  And then I dropped into my curiousness and crawled underneath two people doing some acroyoga.  I stole one's attention so thoroughly, she stopped what she was doing and crawled after me.  I showed her how to get primal.  She was impressed and easily stepped into her own primal.  From there, a man, a very attractive and fit man asked me to dance.  I blushed and stammered about how i usually dance by myself and am very inexperienced in partnered dance, and i'd love to dance with you.  And we danced.

So cool to be finding this things people have created, from Kinky Salon to that dance event I attended.  Just awesome.  I encourage you to explore and see what cool things you can experience!