RadEx

RadEx is something a person very dear to my heart and I developed.  It is short for radical expression.  Having recently gone through this exercise, I feel compelled to share it so that it might serve others.  Understand that this practice is very sacred to me.

It is meant as a tool for connection and intimacy.  With it you risk everything.  By tearing through your abdomen with a blade and watching as your most precious insides spill out disgustingly at your feet, you invite your deepest fears.  This exercise is not meant for acquaintances or strangers, it is meant for those who can push your buttons with ease, who hold the keys to your happiness, or so you imagine.  By sharing your festering thoughts and feelings out loud with those who are most dear to you, you risk abandonment, rage, disgust, condescension, humiliation, long lasting shame, your darkest fears.  Why in god's sweet name would anyone want to do that?  I do it so that I can feel a clean and durable connection with both myself and another human, and can fly freely knowing I've held nothing back.  Every time I enter this exercise I go in knowing that it may mean the end of that particular relationship.  The reward has always been greater than the risk of loss.

So what the fuck is it Kris?  It's a simple and elegant way to clear the air and quiet the stressful chatter and internal dialogue one withhold with another person.  May the following instructions help you in respectfully loving another human fully and transparently.

1 Person One starts and says out loud all of the thoughts, feelings, and sensations they have been witholding, focusing especially on all that is directly pertinent to the other person.  

2 Person Two simply sits quietly and listens without interrupting or coddling (shit can get messy). 

3 After making sure that Person One is finished and feels thoroughly complete, Person Two shares any immediate response that they may have.

4 Repeat steps 1 through 3 with both persons switching roles.

Important note, this works best when done respectfully and with both parties consent.  Also, when done completely and with the most vulnerability, you will have the greatest possibility of profound results.

Caution: Messy shit may come up.  Both parties must know how to take care of themselves and I highly recommend to agreeing to following through with this exercise until both parties feel, in their physical bodies, the sensation of completeness.